You may only have one or two in your lifetime. But who are they? Could you mentor someone to take your place? Take a few minutes to again ponder the differences between discipleship and mentoring. How well are you performing as a leader who should be discipling and equipping saints for the work of ministry Ephesians ?
How well are you performing as a leader who should be reproducing himself in a new generation of emerging leaders 2 Timothy ? Who are your Timothys? Who might become one?
Enter Search Keyword Perform Search. Home Latest Mentoring…. Apoluo Mentoring…. By Clark Macaulay on April 29, Discipleship is broader and more basic. It is focused on getting believers grounded in their faith, living a God-honoring life, and equipped for general ministry.
Hadidian, Helping Other Christians Grow Conversations are framed around the questions and struggles of the mentee. The mentor only plays defense. In other words, the root of mentoring is focused on just a slice of the mentees life and its entire purpose is to benefit the mentee. To be clear, mentoring is beneficial in many contexts.
Mentoring has great merit! But Jesus did something different. Jesus made disciples. Disciple making is very different from mentoring in at least four ways:. A disciple making relationship must be holistic. It must be this way because who we are impacts everything — our attitudes, thoughts, words, and actions. The discipler puts herself forward as the model.
Do what I do. This posture is risky because a discipler offers herself and may be rejected. Disciple makers play both offense and defense. On the offensive side, they have a destination in mind. The coaching lasts for as long as is needed, depending on the purpose of the coaching relationship.
Mentoring is always long term. Mentoring, to be successful, requires time in which both partners can learn about one another and build a climate of trust that creates an environment in which both the mentor and the mentee can feel secure in sharing the real issues that impact his or her success.
Successful mentoring relationships often last for years, sometimes much longer, though the relationship changes as the mentee matures. Successful mentoring relationships often evolve into mutual mentoring as the two grow closer together. For this reason, most recommend that mentoring relationships, unlike coaching, should be two people of the same gender. Coaching is results driven. Once the desired outcome is achieved, the coach is no longer needed.
But after realizing the benefit of a coach, many simply move onto another issue or goal, or hire their coach intermittently as issues arise. The most effective life-coaches I know would never be without their own coach. Mentoring is development or maturity driven. Its purpose is to develop the individual in relation to professional skills, at least, and often includes personal habits and maturity.
Coaching does not require design. Coaching can be conducted almost immediately on any given topic and is sometimes limited to the one coaching session, unless directed to back to the same issue by the coachee. Differentiator 5: When to choose to hire a life-coach or seek out a mentor?
Concluding remarks: Seasons of life dictate much or at least some of the above. The current status at home, married with young kids or with teens, or empty nesters with adult kids with grandkids living in the area- or in another state, single, or single again, etc. Left to our own devises, sans the sharpening of iron on iron, we devolve into our base state as sinners, scratching and swearing in public, not bathing or shaving often enough.
God knew this when he designed most of us to live most of our lives with one person, our spouse. But he also knew that women needed to share regularly with other women and men needed to work together, to smoke an occasional cigar and have a beer together in order to challenge the motives and thoughts of our hearts and minds.
He designed us to live together in community. In our present day western culture, we must invest the effort to seek each other out. Relationships of the types discussed above require intentionality.
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